“That’s a hell of a story” were his words to me as I finished relating my journey of sexual discovery to him. “Is it?” I thought.

Despite having sung together for weeks, we had never really connected and then we had another singer join us and that brought us together. Nicholas and I began to discover things about each other that one would have thought we should have known by now. Take for instance the fact that he lives up the road from me. The pianist has been giving him a lift when I have almost been driving past his house every time I’ve headed to rehearsal!

How often do we engage with people and yet know nothing about them? Nic and I went for beers after the last rehearsal, spontaneously – the way I like it. I began to realise how much we have in common and how, given the opportunity, we all have a story to tell. We all have “a hell of a story” to tell, in fact. (continue reading…)

We live in a world where everyone is trying to fix something. There is self-help and life coaching to fix people’s broken lives. There is international aid to “fix” the downtrodden. And there are the interventions to “fix” the BP oil spill in the Gulf of Mexico.

And then there is the view of British scientists that the best thing to do with the oil spill is…nothing. Yes, nothing. Do nothing. According to an article published in the Mail & Guardian (Doing nothing might have been best for BP oil spill), chemical intervention to break up the oil faster does more long-term environmental damage than the oil itself. The drive to mop up is more driven by the politicians’ need to be seen to do something than what is actually best for the environment.

How much of a need is there for us to be seen to be doing something to better ourselves? (continue reading…)

There is a lot of literature out there promoting a journey “back to spirit” and getting “back to soul”. The irony of this journey is that this isn’t a journey at all. Spirit or soul is the very essence of who we are. We are of it and we are it. Soul is right here and just is.

So what is the meaning of life then? Soul has chosen a physical experience. It has created all that is in order to experience it or, more accurately, in order for it to experience itself. Let me explain. In the beginning there had to be something because nothing can be created from nothing, right? I think all belief systems agree there. This something was all that existed so it could not experience itself because it had nothing to experience itself with. So, in order to see its reflection it needed to create a mirror. I believe this still ties in with science, quantum physics and most religion. (continue reading…)

Jo and I had just completed our usual Saturday morning breakfast together and she was telling me how frustrated she gets when she is asked how she made certain changes in her life and she is unable to answer. The changes happen and yet they only become apparent once they are done. And then to retrace the steps is almost impossible.

Could you relay to me exactly how you changed to become the person you are today from 10 years ago? I didn’t think so.

That’s because it isn’t important. How you achieve something is never important; the achievement is in completing it. Sharing how you achieved it is equally unimportant as it was done in your own unique way that would not apply to anyone else. It is then irrelevant.

After all, what does it matter when there is nothing but the here and now and you are the centre of your universe? Enjoy your journey because it is uniquely yours.

I have spent days trying to fix something. It was causing me physical discomfort and I knew that I was entirely responsible for it. Is it a broken heart? Is it betrayal? Should I be angry and I’m not and so it is festering? The more I agonised for answers the more there were none…but the gentle reminder from the Universe to nurture and love myself.

“But I have to sort this out – it is coming out in my physical body so it must be doing harm!”, I called out in frustration.

“The harm is in your approach”, came the gentle answer…repeatedly (as I have a knack of ignoring such “ridiculous” responses).

We have often heard that it is about the journey and that we are to enjoy it and have fun. Sometimes there is never even an obvious destination but that shouldn’t matter. Every step along the path is a destination on its own – one that we will never experience again. We will never stand in the same spot again. So why rush it? Stop, look around, and marvel at the beauty of the place you’re at. Because you are exactly where you are meant to be. Because you have chosen to be here.

And you are the most special, unique person to walk the face of the earth so the moment’s bound to be awesome!

I have stopped trying to work out what was causing me discomfort. The answer will be there soon enough…when I’m ready to receive it!