We all do it. We convince ourselves that what we have is fine and so there is no reason to pursue anything else, even though we dream of something else. We keep those dreams locked away in the confines of our imagination and sell ourselves the comforting thought of mediocrity. Mediocrity keeps us safe and allows us the pleasure of not having to strive for anything nor to stand out in the crowd.

How many of you have filled a romantic void with someone who is “sweet and lovable but definitely not for the long term”? Do you relate to going to movies with friends who you didn’t really want to see because the other option was to stay at home alone? Perhaps you play a sport you don’t really enjoy because the team needs you? (continue reading…)

This had to be one of the most difficult newsletters for me to write.  I can’t tell you why. I can’t explain the place I am in. All I know is that there has been a block to writing for a month now.

My life has taken such an unexpected turn – I now understand why one needs to form your own view on the world.  Living your life following the expectations of others is unsatisfying and leaves you filled with resentment. Yet living your own life – experiencing it through your own eyes, formed by your own experiences, is invigorating and inspirational to others.  However, this can lead to a lonely existence because others may struggle to relate to you.  The foreignness of what you are saying may drive them away.  But the intrigue will pull them back. No one can truly resist the truth. We may die trying but it always comes out.

If you had to take this particular slice of time and space and be able to keep it forever, would it be a prize possession? Would it be something that you would be proud of? Would you be able to look at it with immense admiration and boast about it to friends? If not, then what are you doing? Why sit in moments that are not serving you …not taking you towards happiness?  We all want happiness but do not want to do anything about it. We all want peace and quiet. We all want to understand why some children appear to have it easy while others seem to struggle all their lives.  Why is that? Choice.  We can choose to be happy.  We can choose to have writer’s block or we can choose not to. We can choose to live in our truth and be different. Or we can choose to fit into a crowd whom we don’t truly know.

Who are you?  Why are you making life so difficult?  Detach from the drama, have a blast, and remember to ask yourself, “what if this is the one moment that I get to take with me?”. Would you want to take it?