Life is like a puzzle but without the picture on the box to guide you. Slowly over time you put pieces together to see if they fit. You try different pieces, you turn them around, you look at the colours on their surface and their shape. If they don’t fit together you start the search again. Over time you start to see a picture emerging but often the full picture is not clear until you triumphantly slot the last piece into its place.

Part of my nature is to automatically see the big picture in every situation – it is what comes with choosing a visionary archetype. This quality is revered by today’s society as everyone looks up to the visionaries of each generation, yet there is just as much value in seeing the little things and loving and appreciating them.

When I started working with my archetypes my boyfriend at the time held on to the teacher’s words about one aspect of the visionary in the realm of marriage and relationships: “there may be a tendency to not do romantic little things for the people you view as special”. He loved that statement and used it against me at every opportunity. “I have needs!” was often uttered desperately in the same breath. It turns out this was more about his issues than mine but it is still an important point to make.

Essentially, everything in life comes down to balance. If you are doing weight training and focus more on the left side of your body then you’re going to end up looking a little odd but also your body is going to eventually end up compensating in strange and unhealthy ways. Focus too much on the big picture and you miss all the moments necessary to create it; focus too much on the detail and you’ll never get to see the beauty of your creation.

So I now focus on the special small moments as I relate with others. This morning one of the trainers at gym commented on how I hadn’t been around in a while (I have had a cold so took a week off gym) – I had no idea that he would notice. I underestimate the impact I have on others – just smiling and greeting someone is relating. How often we forget the power of that. In fact, I was chatting to Jodene earlier this week about how much I communicate without words. She told me that my communication starts with the look on my face. Yes, I have a look. In fact, I have a few. She always reminds me of that. Anyone who has met me knows how my face is an open book – this used to irritate me growing up because this is not a good trait if you’re hoping to lie your way out of a situation.

The beauty of every little moment, every little piece of the puzzle, is there for us to see. I’ve decided that it is no longer about seeing where things are going, nor where the moment will take me, but what it is that will be fun right now. One day I will see the full picture but that will be the moment to appreciate it, not now. Right now I’m loving the pieces.

(As an aside: I couldn’t resist including this link to one of the greatest songs of all times. It is about a visionary but also the impact we have on others’ lives: ‘The whole of the moon’ by the Waterboys. Listen and enjoy the moment).

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