I am getting the impression that I am a threat to humanity. There are reports every day of how people like me are destroying families and fuelling sexual abuse. I believe that a school in South Africa has had to close down its girls’ dormitory out of fear for what could happen if they allowed such activity to continue. Africa in particular is afraid of people like me. We are being hunted down and killed because of what we can evidently do to society.

Personally I am wondering if it is an innate fear of good taste, great shoes and fantastic curtains. What other threat can homosexuals pose to the world? We are so peace-loving that many countries keep us out of their armies because we couldn’t harm someone if we tried. We adore women and give them love and respect (and great sex tips). We love children. So why the big threat? We’re only 10% of the population (if we are to believe those people who conjure up stats for a living) and yet we are perceived by some nations to be a greater threat to humanity than famine, disease, climate change and war.

One would think countries like Malawi, Kenya and Ghana would have bigger issues to deal with than trying to stamp out homosexuality from their society.

One argument I had the pleasure of reading (pleasure because it was so laughable) is that gays are a threat to the traditional family unit. This was news to me as I thought that divorce, often as a result of infidelity, was breaking up family units. It is perhaps unfortunate that few children get through their childhood today with biological parents happily married, but it has never been proven that the broken homes are as a result of homosexuality. In addition, in which society are all straight couples doing a better job than a gay couple could in raising children? Look at the parents in your neighbourhood and tell me that their parenting outstrips what I am capable of doing. Surely the most important things any adult can hope to give children are love and happiness? And this is not dependent on sexuality.

Let’s focus on the real issues in the world and start with why some people feel the need to victimise others. Bullying is a sign of cowardice. It’s ugly. And it doesn’t go with my coffee table.

Valentine’s Day 2010. How was that day for you? Did you try to ignore it, ignore it with vehement purpose, or indulge in all the schmaltz that is commercial Valentine’s in the modern world?

I had a mix of a day. I had lunch with a guy who is special because of the chilled easiness with which he approaches relating. We had great fun. Then, in the evening, I joined a group of gay single boys (and one couple who managed to sneak in, along with a fantastic girl) for a non-Valentine’s party. We socialised a little and then went to watch Hollywood’s latest version of what I call “American vomit”: the movie “Valentine’s Day”. Interestingly most of my group loved it. It made me sick.

I have often wondered why romantic comedies (American ones in particular) do not appeal to me. Okay, that was polite, repulse me is more accurate. It’s because they symbolise a lot of what I do NOT want in a relationship.

Firstly there’s the “what are we?” aspect. Seeking to define something so special and beautiful does not sit well. (Okay, I also do it but try to keep it in the head where it originates and not let it out into the world. )

Then there’s the “I can’t tell him that because that will hurt him too much” element and all the drama that goes with it. Lying is not an option when I relate because I respect people as the strong resilient beings they are who can take the truth with the love with which I give it. As can I.

And then there is the “our love is for ever and ever” component, which is so misunderstood. Love is forever…but that doesn’t mean that you will remain a devoted couple for the rest of your life. In love, and because of love, it may be best for you to part. Why is that always made out to be the worst thing on the planet?

Surprisingly, after having said all of this, I am a romantic and I know I will relate with many special people along the way. But it will always be me relating and not the me that the world expects. Everyone’s world would be a better place if we all did.

Check out this news clip from my favourite news source. I love The Onion! Satire identifies the truth and puts it out there for everyone to see. People laugh because they relate and see how ridiculous the truth is but few, sadly, do anything about it.

Have fun!

New Law Would Ban Marriages Between People Who Don’t Love Each Other

Tiger Woods is a world-champion golfer. He is admired for his dedication and skill on the course and his humility and personality off the course. His fame started because of his extraordinary skill in golf.

Susan Boyle was a little known woman in Scotland until she entered a talent competition and wowed the judges with her singing voice. She has a talent for singing. So do many others.

South African President Jacob Zuma was put forward by the winning party of the last election as their candidate for president. He was touted as a “president of the people”, in touch with the masses and an example to the youth.

Tiger Woods has recently been exposed for having numerous affairs during his marriage; Susan Boyle has been having “breakdowns” and mistreating people; and Jacob Zuma, a polygamist by culture, is said to have fathered 20 illegitimate children. And the world is horrified and exclaims: “How could these perfect examples of good morals do such things? They should be ashamed and apologise to all who idolise and adore them!”

Woods is a professional golfer. Boyle is a singer. Zuma is a president. These are their roles. Why are we looking for them to be the perfect example of what we are not? If I had to judge myself by similar standards I would fail dismally, especially since what I do often contradicts what society deems good behaviour.

Please understand that, while I may not condone the behaviour of these individuals, I choose to focus on what expectations we, as society, have placed on these people. We chose to make them the people they are not and so we should happily accept them when they show the people they are.