Some things throw me to the fire – they challenge me like never before. Then I stand still. I wait for the fire to die. I wait for the challenge to go away and for everything to become easy again. Why do I wait?

I have one of those situations at the moment. I’m in the midst of a fire that is burning hot. It is branding my skin and is raging through my life. I try to deny it. I make it go away … briefly … until I feel the burning again. That burning is the reminder that I have not acknowledged its warmth.

I love people for who they are and what they are capable of being. This can lead to disappointment when they choose not to reach that potential or to be who they truly are. Yet that is beautiful too in that it shows the value of choice and how we all have a side that is powerful, strong and yet…hidden.

I prefer to keep a part of me hidden too. It excites me. It burns me. It energises me. And yet I keep it away from prying eyes that may (or may not) criticise it. I hold it so dear that I’m not sure that I can handle others even looking at it – never mind passing judgement.

The gift of unrequited love has helped me to deal with this and to help me see that it does not matter what the other thinks of me. I loved and did not get the same in return and I realised that that did not take away from the fact that I still loved and that it didn’t rely on the other. That is unconditional – it was even devoid of the condition of the other loving me. Therein lies the beauty of everything, especially us as people.

“All the lovers that have gone before do not compare to you,” sings Kylie Minogue. No one in your universe can compare to you. Don’t be frightened…just give a little bit more. I remind myself: Love, be kind to me, and run right into the fire that burns within me because what’s the worst that can happen? I experience getting burnt. That’s better than no experience at all.

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